Poems/Songs, Seasonal

Fathers’ Day

“My Father didn’t tell me how to live;

He lived and let me watch him do it.”

–Clarence B. Kelland

Today we celebrate all of our Fathers.

  • They have many names: Dad, Daddy, Papa, Poppy, Grandad…..our own children called my Dad: Dado.
  • They are a most important and necessary person in our lives.
  • They were designed to be roll models, leaders, protectors, providers, the strength of our homes.
  • I learned many things from my own Father who I called Daddy until the end of his days.
  • I married into a family and gained one of the greatest men I have ever known as a “Father.”
  • My own husband has filled that vital role for our children.
  • As adults, they still express their love and appreciation to him.

As we pause today to remember the Fathers in our lives, keep in mind that many of them have given their all for country and family.

  • Remember the children they left behind; the void in their lives.
  • Many men have stepped up to shoulder responsibility for these children.
  • They are men of a special make-up and are true Fathers in every sense.

Years ago there lived an unusual Father and poet, Edgar A. Guest.

  • Personally, I have enjoyed many of his verses.
  • He looked at the common experience of life with humor and great insight.
  • The poem following these words is by no means disparaging to Father’s.
  • It is the words of a man who in addition to being a writer was a Father himself.

To Fathers everywhere: enjoy your day, relax, smile and laugh a lot. You deserve it.

FATHER TO SON

The times have proved my judgement bad.

I’ve followed foolish hope in vain,

And as you look upon your dad

You see him commonplace and plain.

No brilliant wisdom I enjoy;

The jests I tell have grown to bore you,

But just remember this, my boy:

‘Twas I who chose your mother for you!

Against the blunders I have made

And all the things I’ve failed to do,

The weaknesses which I’ve displayed,

This fact remains forever true;

This to my credit still must stay

And don’t forget it, I implore you;

Whatever else you think or say:

‘Twas I who chose your mother for you!

Chuckle at times behind my back

About the ties and hats I wear.

Sound judgment I am known to lack.

Smile at the ancient views I air.

Say if you will I’m often wrong,

But with my faults strewn out before you,

Remember this your whole life long:

‘Twas I who chose your mother for you!

Your life from babyhood to now

Has known the sweetness of her care;

Her tender hand has soothed your brow;

Her love gone with you everywhere.

Through every day and every night

You’ve had an angel to adore you,

So bear in mind I once was right:

‘Twas I who chose your mother for you!

(From Collected Verse of:  Edgar A. Guest)

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Life's Journey

What’s The Big Deal?

 

Everyone one of us has experiences, probably on a regular basis, that are unexpected, frustrating, irritating and sometimes can make us down right mad.

  • For me, I get very impatient when stuck in traffic.
  • Somethings we encounter are larger and some are smaller events, but we still let them get under our skin and we over react.
  • Such as: we’re in a hurry to get somewhere and the car won’t start, we’ve misplaced our keys, company’s coming and the sink stopped up, the phone didn’t get charged or just as you are ready to go out the baby spits up.

The list is endless for all of us. We all have experienced over and over Gumperson’s Law.

  • These incidents are just part of living an everyday life.
  • My husband gets sooo very upset at himself when he has “an accident of life” happen to him. Maybe he’s misplaced something. He’ll break a glass or spill something that will fly all over the place.
  • I usually try to sooth his irritation and help clean up the mess.
  • While we are working to put things back in order I tell him: “IT’S NO BIG DEAL” don’t take it so seriously, nothing important has happened. Calm down, everything’s going to be ok.

I remember one time when I went to an orthopedic surgeon.

  • He had been giving me shots in my knee, but this time the pain was so intense that I let out a small cry.
  • He apologized. I remarked to him that it caught me by surprise and that this experience was “just small potatoes.”
  • He gave me a serious look and said: “you’ve got the big picture, don’t you?” 
  • I responded in the affirmative; by that time I had had many real life experiences.
  • From then on any time I met one of his collegues, he always introduced me as his favorite patient.

A while back while visiting with a friend of mine, it was easy to see that she was quite upset and distressed.

  • As I inquired about her problem, she told me her mother had  a health issue that MIGHT be cancer.
  • My friend had worked herself up into an emotional state that included losing her mother before too long.
  • We talked and I encouraged her to take it a step at a time. Wait for tests and more definitive news.
  • If the news was not good she could concentrate on crossing one bridge at a time; not all of them at once.
  • As it turned out her mother didn’t have cancer.

We all fall prey to the fear of the unknown, but that is not the place to stay even for the short term.

  • Trust that things will turn out right.
  • If they don’t, then ask for strength to face whatever is before you and get going to do whatever is required to conquer the situation and come out on the other side.

Most of the time I have learned not to let the little things get to me anymore.

  • I must confess though, when something major happens I may find myself stunned for a little while.
  • But then as reality hits, I gather my thoughts, put myself back together, look to my faith and start down the path to meet whatever situation is ahead of me.

When it comes to the various little experiences of life, stop and say to yourself: “IT’S NO BIG DEAL.” Save your energies for the things that are A BIG DEAL.

 

“Worrying is like a rocking chair.

It gives you something to do,

but won’t get you anywhere.”

 

(Response of a 17 year old boy from Firestone, CO when asked this question:

What is the best piece of advice you ever received?)

   

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Fun Stuff, Poems/Songs

Be Goofy

…..Novemeber 15, 2014

“I remember sitting on the front steps

Feeling the softness of a warm summer rain

I see the reflections of my mind

All the sadness all the pain

Visions of yesterday,

How they slip away

And though my dreams have come and gone

With one wish I can say:

Kiss me in the rain, and make me feel like a child again

Bring back all those memories

Kiss me in the rain, and make me feel like a child again.” **

  After all these heavy topics of life which we have discussed, I think it’s time just to have some fun and laugh. We all enjoy that good, deep down laugh. Once in a while (usually late at night), my funny box gets turned over and I laugh until I cry. Then, I laugh more and cry more. When we’re all together our family watches for these events so they can join the silliness. They’ll look at me and say: “there she goes.” Laughter is contagious. Remember what it’s like to get tickled at something and eventually the whole group is laughing with you. Some of them probably don’t even know what was funny, but they joined in anyway. Why? Because it’s fun to do. It lightens our load of cares and sometimes even soothes our wounds. I remember driving back into town from the cemetery with my husband and our younger daughter. We had just buried our oldest child. Suddenly something silly happened and our car was filled with laughter. That was good. We needed to laugh. We have been life long friends with a dear couple since we were teenagers. Our lives went in different directions and we have been separated by distance for most of our adult lives. When we get together, it is as if we had never been apart. Laughter has always been a big part of our relationship. One day many years ago we were visiting them and the three of us plotted a great joke to play on my husband. Boy!, did we ever succeed with our little plan. We were rolling on the floor with laughter. These many years later the memory still brings smiles and laughter to our lives. Have you ever thought about how beneficial it is to laugh at yourself? We can sometimes take ourselves too seriously. It’s good to loosen up and get out of your box. Life is too short and regardless of our experiences we need to see the joy in it. So, I’m going to share one of my “box less” and fun days with you. The neighborhood we lived in at the time was small and secluded. There was one road in and the same road took you out. The area was wooded and the street was in an oval shape. Homes surrounded the inside and outside of the oval. It was a great place to safely walk. Quite a few of us liked to walk and you usually met someone as you were going down the road.  One thing I began to notice: people usually walked looking down at the ground. (Now that’s a life lesson right there), I would wonder why they did that; so I made a practice of looking forward and even up to the sky occasionally. Looking up is always a positive thing to do. Put that in your life and practice it more. One day my husband was walking with me. Of course, he was looking down; so I gave him a short discourse on my observations of where he should be looking. We were pass the point of no return when it started to sprinkle. He wanted to hurry home, but I was enjoying myself walking in the rain. At this time we were already wet, so what was the rush; it was a lovely day. Again, I encouraged him to look up and enjoy the blessing of rain falling on his face. By that time, he thought I was a little crazy. Our house was the second one from the corner. The neighbors on the corner were grumpy and not very friendly. I don’t remember them ever saying one word to us. By the time we were almost home, I turned to my husband and said: “I’ve always loved the Barbara Streisand song Kiss Me In The Rain, I want you to kiss me in the rain?”  Just at the precise moment he was kissing me, you guessed it, our Mr. Scrooge neighbor stepped out of his house; his jaw dropped when he saw us. He quickly went back into his home. By this time, I was totally out of my box and I did a Tarzan yell; just like the comedian Carol Burnett used to do. After that, hubby decided I really was crazy and hurried off to get back to the house. To finish it off, when I got home I decided to stand under a stream of water pouring off the corner of our roof. I was already soaked, so why not? Nothing bad happened that day. We got wet and had to clean up, so what…that’s a big deal? We gave our neighbors something to talk about (which was worth the whole experience), had a great time and made a memory. You may be laughing with me as this story is being related to you. Actually, I hope you are. Laughter releases tension and makes our journey so much more pleasant. Once in a while, laugh at yourself and be goofy. It won’t hurt. In fact, it might help. FIND SOMETHING TO LAUGH ABOUT TODAY…..Next, plan on laughing tomorrow, the day after that and the day after that. As the King of Siam said to Anna: “et cetera, et cetera, et cetera.”

Always laugh when you can.

It is cheap medicine.

(Lord Byron)

**  Song: Kiss Me In The Rain Composers:  Santo Farina, L. Ratner 

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