…..October 25 ,2014
Most of my life I have been a reader: novels, poetry, self-help books, newspapers, the Bible, etc. I love the beauty of words and the way they flow together. Some well known authors certainly have a talent for expression.
WORDS ARE POWERFUL
- They paint a picture.
- They take us to distant lands and different times.
- They entertain us and sometimes they change our behavior.
- They educate us and at times challenge us.
- They make us laugh and they can make us sad.
- They can lift us up or tear us down.
Scripture has much to say about words; especially in Proverbs and in the book of James.
There are two things in this world that devastate us: words and rejection.
- In all honesty I believe that those two words probably form most of who we are.
- You say, “no way” but a great deal of our lives are based on the outcome of what we have experienced from those two words.
- Today our attention will be focused on Words only. Rejection will be addressed at a future time.
Recently I alluded to the home where I was raised. My parents, as we all are, were a product of the baggage that came from their backgrounds.
Their experiences manifested itself in words that more often than not tore down.
Too much of the time destructive words were hurled at each other.
During those times I was the appointed go-between. “Tell your mother this….tell your Father that.”
I was “little miss goody two shoes” who tried to do what I could to keep these explosions from happening.
When they happened, life was confusing and difficult. My heart was wounded for the first time at an early age.
I knew my parents loved me and cared for me. They taught me the necessary things we need in our lives.
- To know what it is to work, to have good manners, to be helpful to those who are suffering.
- They were good, honest people.
- In their defense, it was a different time.
- They were a product of the great depression.
I came to realize as I became an adult that they didn’t have the resources to help them that are available to us today. Counselors, preaching, books, helps on how to have a productive discussion, support from encouraging peers.
My younger sibling became a carbon copy of my parents, so I was outnumbered.
- I became quiet, shy, undemanding (unlike my sibling), introverted and a book worm.
- I learned to measure my words carefully.
- I just wanted a peaceful home.
After 30 plus years of marriage, my parents finally divorced. Still when I went home the words were there, especially on my mother’s part.
- I loved her dearly and still do. So much of what I am is owed to her.
- In many ways she was an example to follow.
- My strength and belief in myself came from her.
- She sacrificed herself for others even when it was difficult for her.
- She was a get it done type of person.
- She had earned the respect of other people.
- Her friends appreciated her.
When she died a neighbor commented (he meant it nicely) that she was one tough broad. She had to be, she was the only girl in a family that had seven boys.
I’ve often thought she should have been written about in the Readers Digest under the heading: The Most Unforgettable Character I Ever Met. That certainIy was my mother.
People didn’t forget her and she made an impression on many lives. It means so much to me that my last words to her were “I love you Mama.”
But she also thought she was clever in the things she said in order to get her personal point across.
- Anytime I visited home, there were new wounds and at times her words effected my children.
- I knew she was speaking through her own disappointment, and brokenness, but that didn’t make me feel any better.
One time, when I was in my 30’s, myself and our three children went back home for a visit.
- She still grieved over the divorce and at that specific time my sibling was avoiding her.
- I tried to encourage her with the enjoyable things she could do with myself and her grandchildren.
- She said to me: “I don’t have your daddy, I don’t have ?????, and I don’t want you.”
Even then, I knew she didn’t mean it, but those words are to this day embedded in my memory.
Previously, you were warned that sometimes this blog would be deeply personal.
I do this for one reason….YOU.
Behind every face is a story. The things I have just shared with you are a part of my story and have helped to make me who I am.
The real truth of my story is that these things were necessary, in order that my life’s purpose might be fulfilled. It is a tool to be used, not locked away.
Each of you have your story. Many will be different from mine and some will be similar. There are others out there whose story is horrific and they run from it.
Whatever your story, you control how it ends. New beginnings are possible at any stage of life.
- My prayer for you is that somehow through these words you will see that there is always hope, a new day and a different future.
- Each one of us needs to learn and use our past experiences to help us grow. To obtain the best for ourselves and those whose lives we may effect.
All of us should be careful of the words we utter.
- It’s so easy to let them fly out of our mouths. It takes a lot more courage to keep your mouth shut than it does to open it.
- Always stop and think before you say anything. Once it’s out there, it cannot be called back.
Sometimes the price for words said or possibly not said is too high.
- Build people up, don’t tear them down.
- Words are free, but be careful how you spend them on others.
As you have determined by now, I believe it’s best to use words that encourage others and to think in a positive manner.
- You’ll feel better about yourself and others will feel better around you.
- It’s not hard to say something uplifting to someone you encounter during your day.
A couple of weeks ago I went to a deli counter that we use frequently.
- For quite a while we have had difficulty getting an order sliced to our satisfaction.
- Very politely, I told the clerk about our (small) problem.
- She took time to explain about the problem they were having with their equipment.
- She then proceeded to do the best she could to accommodate my order in the best way possible.
- When I picked up my purchase, I kindly said to her “I appreciate your attitude” and wished her a good day.
- She replied back to me, “you made it better.”
It cost me nothing but a few words, but the results gave both of us satisfaction and a happier spirit.
Think about words which have been spoken to you that made your day better, or maybe encouraged you when it was needed. And, as they say, “pay it forward.”
Maybe you can reflect on the words of a song or songs that you love. A favorite song brings pleasure to our day. They may even make our tasks easier to perform, make us smile or speak of a memory we treasure.
You might remember an author you enjoy whose way with Words lives long after the book is finished. I often think of the last few words used by Herman Wouk in the “Winds of War.” They are so descriptively beautiful. They still (after many years) remain in my mind.
Words live on after those who have uttered them are gone. The quotes that I use in this blog are ones that I meditate on and try to apply to my life. They cause me to continually inspect my outlook on life and how to approach the issues we all have to face.
Remember………WORDS ARE POWERFUL…….use them wisely!!
“The Past is My Heritage,
The Present is My Responsibility,
The Future is My Challenge.”